Belonging to a group does not always create a sense of fulfillment

Belonging to a group always has a sense of fulfillment, not because you are with people but you're with the people you enjoy to be and spend time with. Human beings are naturally social creatures, throughout history humans have interacted with each other in massive groups from the beginning of time. Caveman, hunting and forging parties for the community, their tribe, every single person in that group of people have a sense of fulfillment not because they are in a group but they are with family and friends, and in that group they all have individual skills to contribute to the group to help the tribe survive. This creates a unique sense of fulfillment knowing that your skills help a tribe survive.

As time passed, tribes and groups grew into countries and empires with each person belonging to a specific group among the them to help it survive. As it gets larger people's efforts and contributions often don't get recognised by the certain group of people, the fulfillment of each person and satisfaction of knowing that you actually did something to help even the smallest thing is forgotten, the sense of fulfillment is not there anymore. To have a sense of fulfillment, knowledge of the group that you are part of is necessary, to know if you feel satisfied with who you are with, and what you do with them. Do you enjoy being with them or are you just with them out of fear of being left alone?

Being a part of any group, isn't fulfilling but being a part of a group where you can be yourself and people embrace who you are is fulfilling. Anything you do for the betterment of the group is recognised and appreciated, it does always create a sense of fulfillment being in a group that values your presence, cause it shows your opinion matters in whatever step the group takes. A sense of fulfillment can be created by anything someone does, like an accomplishment in your own life, knowing you did something that would greatly effect your own life is still fulfilling, but it still isn't the same as doing something for the furtherance of the group, because is recognised by all the people involved in the group. There are good groups and bad groups all have their own values and rules that you would have to follow to be a part of. An extreme example would be the police and drug dealers; each group has their own values and ideals, but to belong to any of them you have to know what values you have and what ideals you stand for.

Before you even belonging to a group you have to figure out who you are to be a part of it, or you would joint a group not knowing who you are and adopting values and ideal that are not yours. Further, to continue participating with a group out of fear of being alone in the world, or just wanting to be a part of something to make you feel fulfillment of having some people there to help you in need is necessary. Humans are social creatures we always have to be in a group, no matter what happens it the only way to survive in the world, even from the start of time, if you are left alone in the wild, there is no hope of surviving not because your alone but because each person has a separate skill from another person, and each person contributes their skills for the enhancement of the group. Belonging to a group does always create a sense of fulfillment, because it's just the way we are, the way we are created, and evolution over time demonstrates that belonging to a group has its fulfillment in whatever you do in the group.

It is through our search for identity that we discover where we truly belong.

People would search for who they are, and where they belong, their whole entire life, but most people struggle to find why they are here, what their purpose is on this world and where do they belong. Throughout life, people try to make up something of themselves, to be successful, to be great, but to be any of those things. Search for your true identity, and you would find more than that. Belonging to something that has the same values as yourself but to belong to a group or tribe, you have to find who you are first what you stand for, what values you actually up hold, to find your identity.

'Some men are born great, some achieve greatness, some have greatness thirsted upon them'. (Shakespeare). Alexander the great, was born into a great family that had massive power and influence in Macedonia, his identity and values passed down from his father, to one day have the whole of greece united, but Alexander wanted more than his father did and went on to conquer most of the eastern empires, his search for identity led him across asia, until his death where his identity was shaped as a conqueror, he truly belong as a king of East 'some men are born great'. Hitler was originally an artist on the streets of austria, but through his search for identity and power, he achieved greatness until he went mad with power but he was able to achieve what no man could achieve in that time, was pull a country out of depression 'some achieve greatness' in search for his identity showed where he truly belonged, but at the cost of madness. Joanna Arc had greatness thirsted upon her to led the french army to victory and to liberate france from the british, her identity was a farm girl but after her search for who she was and with the help of a higher being, she found her self in the french army and thats where she truly belonged.

People through out history has given their life to find who they are and what values they have and you can say that its not a wasted life, who would want to live through life living in someone else footpath, someone else dream and living in their identity, hold up values that you grew up with but, have your own to attend to, that would be a wasted life, living life as it passes you by. "the perfect blossom is a rare thing. You can spend your whole life looking for one and it wont be a wasted life." (Katsumoto,The last samurai). This quote can have such great meaning in life if studied closely, looking for even the most simplest things in life isn't a waste cause it can hold much beauty in it that its worth spending a whole life looking for it, looking for who u are what you are made of your identity for your whole life and it wont be a wasted life, cause if u do find who you are, it show you where you belong and what values you have. People are often, who they don't wan't to be, but they are who they are cause life seems so overwhelming that, it just much easier to walk in someone else's footsteps and do what you don't want to do and be who you have no intention of being. "Many people sacrifice their identities by not doing what they want to do. And thats why they're not successful" (James Baldwin)

people philosophize about society and identity, but often contradicting each other, "society exists only as a mental concept; in the real world thee are only individuals" Oscar Wilde compare this quote to Mother Theresa "if we have no peace, its because we have forgotten that we belong to each other" these two quotes has such meaning to it, but two totally different meanings. Each stating the opposite of each other.Oscar Wilde states that belonging is just a mental concept, and identities are individual from each other to an extent that societies a figure of our imagination. Mother Theresa "We can have no peace if we forget that we belong with each other", then by searching for who we are, we find belonging and peace within ourselves and the people that surround us. Civilization as we know it changes everyday with it being new concepts and ideas, history has shown search for identity will give you belonging, but history never repeats itself.

We cannot always be ourselves in the company of others.

We really cannot always be ourselves even without the company of others, we always pretend to be someone we are not, but want to be the person we pretend to be. In the company of others we are something we are not, we know it, they don't, but to keep the company of others we have to pretend to be that person out of fear we might lose them. Humans are very social creatures, we love to be in the company of others, doesn't matter who it is, but if you're able to communicate with them, you keep the mirage going for as long as possible to keep our identity a secret.

What we do everyday in life is judged by other people, even with the smallest of tasks, people watch you and make up their mind what they think of you without even, having any communication with you. We cannot be ourselves in the company of others without being judged, or ridiculed. What choice do we have, if we put up walls and hide behind them, if we drop our defenses we are vulnerable for persecution by the company that surround us. It's like a chubby boy going to the pools, before he gets into the pool he puts a shirt on, but if he drops his defenses and goes shirtless he is vulnerable to laughter and humiliation, 'titty boy'. The same goes for each of the people within the group that surrounds you, wouldn't it be different if you met a person one on one, and then you meet them with their friends, they would be totally different people. So, to fit in with their friends, the person you met one on one, is like a totally different person; they would have their own personality but hide it to fit in.

Each person is different, no one is made the same or, lives the same, except the Amish, they are all alike. They are all the same because, they don't have to act different from who they are, they are all brought up in the same way so they would have the same ideals and values, therefore they are all the same simple people. In the company of others, they are simple people with moral values, and are very honest and truthful. Something you don't find very often these days, but if found are kept very close because it's not easy to find another. People that stay honest to themselves, and have some moral values, would find friends that share the same, not abandon who they are to be something they are not.

How does religion impact on our personal identity?

Religion, by itself has its own effect on the community, on how people think, their train of thought, what they do in life. Your personal identity could be effected by the religion you follow, it depends on how you were brought up, it shows your understanding to what is right and wrong. There are different religions in the world and each of them help mould what kind of person you would be, the religious values that have to be upheld with the religion that you choose to follow or the religion you grew up in. In the middle east, religious values are different to other religions, so it defines right from wrong in the eyes of the community, from the western religion.

Some of the religious values the middle eastern people hold because they were brought up that way maybe viewed as wrong in which the western people where brought up, but its our personal identity that defines us from the rest, no matter what religion you follow, but some people out of fear don't have their own personal identity, but one of which that has been provided by the community that follows that religion. There are very few people in the world that have their very own personal identity, because each person wants to belong to a group of some kind, and having a very unique identity could cause a problem, to socialize with other people, and to blend in with the community. Just by having your views on things that is right and wrong, or what values you hold would not be seen as very religious, therefore you would not be in a community that doesn't, uphold your values. It would be like taking an red neck and placing him in the northern provence of Pakistan, his values and the ones of the community would be very different like Ying and Yang just two different things.

Some of the values that the Pakistani's stand for, would be viewed as barbarous by the western people. Similarly, the values that the western culture believes is viewed as unholy and insane in the Pakistani religion. Religion has a massive impact on personal identity, how you think, how you view things in the world, if its bad or good, but religion is not supposed to have an impact on your personal identity, but people that don't really have one, would be given an identity by the religion in which they follow. The religion itself has its own identity among other religions, it's what defines it as different, but defines us as a part of a community in which we all have the same values and identity because we follow the same religion. To have your very own personal identity, something that makes us, who we are, requires that we live in an isolated place, so no one can affect, how you think, or show you what's right and wrong, it's your judgement of things that would define you.